Stages of grief.

Dr Elizabeth Kübler-Ross a Swiss American Psychiatrist created a process of grief that can be useful in recognizing what you are feeling in a confused state. Losing someone you love is very hard, and it’s okay to feel many different emotions. You might feel confused, sad, or even angry. All of these feelings are normal. Grief is the way our hearts help us understand and heal after a loss, and there is no right or wrong way to experience it.

People often go through different feelings when they are grieving. These feelings don’t always come in order, and sometimes they come and go like waves. You might feel some of these things at different times:

Feelings You Might Have

Shock and Denial – At first, it might feel like this isn’t real. You might think, “This can’t be happening.” This feeling helps protect your heart from sadness all at once.

Anger – You might feel upset or that things are unfair. It’s okay to feel angry at the situation, at other people, or even at the person who passed away. You can talk about your feelings, and that can help.

Bargaining – You may find yourself wishing you could change things. You might think, “If only I had done something differently.” It’s okay to have these thoughts, but remember, nothing is your fault.

Sadness and Depression – As you begin to understand the loss, you might feel very sad. You might not want to do things you used to enjoy. It’s okay to cry and to feel this way. Talking to someone who cares about you can help.

Trying to Adjust – Over time, you might start finding ways to live with the loss. You may still feel sad sometimes, but you’ll also start to feel moments of happiness again. This doesn’t mean you’ve forgotten—it just means your heart is healing.

Acceptance and Moving Forward – One day, you will find a way to carry the love and memories of the person with you, even though they are not physically here. You might think, “It still hurts, but I know I’ll be okay.”

Things to Remember

It’s okay to feel whatever you feel – There is no right or wrong way to grieve.

You are not alone – There are people who love you and want to help, like family, teachers, or counselors.

Talking helps – Sharing your thoughts and feelings with someone you trust can make things easier.

Your loved one is always in your heart – The love you shared will always be a part of you.

Healing takes time – You don’t have to rush. Take each day as it comes.

lDr Elizabeth Kübler-Ross later clarified that grief is not just a step-by-step process but rather a sets of emotions that people experience in different ways ,in very different times scales.